This one is tough. Losing weight is hard enough as it is–having support from loved ones really does make a HUGE difference! My hubby is 160 pounds and 6’2”…he’s never ever had to worry about his weight. He USED to eat fast food, pizza, burgers, drink soda, etc…he still does that sometimes but it’s a lot more rare. I just had to deal with it…
First off, you need to be clear about what you need. How do you want them to support you? By keeping junk out of the house? Going for walks with you? Let your spouse know that you have clear goals and that they are going to have to help you by _____________.
Now if you are trying to get healthy and you’re getting criticism from your spouse, I think you really need to sit down and have a heart to heart with them. Why are they not being supportive? Do they understand your reasons for doing what you’re doing? Do they know how you feel? Sometimes it can just be a little miscommunication.
If they do know how important it is to you and they STILL aren’t supportive, you need to be the bigger person and lead by example. Temptation can be rough, but you are strong! It took 3 years for my hubby to start eating a lot of the same foods as me–what helped was that I did all of the cooking, and I also explained to him how this way of eating is not only way cheaper, but it’s better for you. He started feeling better and noticing a difference (not weight loss, just overall health), so he was more accepting.
It’s definitely easier if you can be healthy together, as a team, but sometimes people just aren’t ready. You can’t force them into doing something they don’t want to do, so love them, accept them, don’t try and change them. If you’re noticing a change in how you feel, your pants are getting looser, etc., celebrate that! Hopefully they can celebrate with you.
